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VOL. IV : Issue 14 December 31, 2002
Editor: Joan Bramsch
E-mail: hijoan@joanbramsch.com

Common sense solutions for Today's Parenting Challenges!
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Empowered Parents = Strong Families
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HEALTHY, WEALTHY, BLESSED NEW YEAR, DEAR ONE.

I send you wishes three for the New Year.

Good health, for that is truly the greatest blessing of all.

Prosperity, so that you have all you need and some left to share.

Happiness, so that you enjoy what you've got and not spend precious time
wishing for what you think you lack.

My wishes for 2003! :)

Love, Joan

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Enjoy! :)

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CONSIDER THIS for the New Year

Remember the last time you thought or said, "I can't afford
this." Write it down and think about it carefully. Don't let
your mind slide lazily over this. Continue looking at the
meaning of what you thought. What was your feeling; that you
didn't have enough money to satisfy your perfectly natural
urge to enjoy your life?

The principle is this: money is not wealth. Value is wealth.
What are you worth? What value do you provide to other
people? Most importantly, what can you do to be worth more
to others? Spend a full hour thinking hard about this one
question.

The richest people have one or more of the following
strengths:
- they can provide specialized information or services
for others
- they are willing to do things others can't or won't
do
- they are at least perceived to be worth more (even if
they're not - but usually they are). This means
honest self-promotion. Let others know what you can
do for them.

Becoming worth more to other people is achieved in five
steps.
1. Begin seeing yourself as worth more, able to
offer special value that others want.
2. Identify what others want and match those things
with what you can do.
3. Start providing that value. If you need more
training before you can provide good value, then
begin learning about it. Or go get the training.
4. Continue adding skills throughout your career to
raise your value even further.
5. Learn how to publicize and promote yourself to
others. Don't hide your light under a basket. How
can others benefit from your very special skills
if they never hear about you?

All the best from sunny Japan,
Charles Burke mailto:bl@moreluck.com

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"If you don't feel grateful for what you have,
what makes you think you'll be happy with more?" -- Unknown

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There's also professional input. I watched them all and they are helpful. And FREE! :)

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A CALMING SITE/SIGHT - :)

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Words To Give You Strength
by Joan Bramsch
This I believe:

Exhausted parents -- particularly single parents -- have succumbed to feelings of guilt and inadequacy because children, now accustomed to being the center of attention, have become dependent upon and demanding of their parents. Parents' feelings of guilt don't help children -- they destabilize the family. Remember... YOU are the parent!
Spend as much time on your marriage, or yourself if you're single, than you do with the children. Adult self-respect and fulfillment reassures the child.

Expect your child to obey the RULES. Disobedience earns a stretch in the Time-Out chair -- one minute for each child's year up to five. YOU are in charge of family decisions.

ROUTINES are important stabilizers.
Example: Hands are washed before eating. Nap time is directly after lunchtime.

Teach your child about RESPONSIBILITY.
Example: Your toys must be picked up before the bedtime story.

Teach decision-making skills. At the earliest age, allow your child to make decisions within your parameters.
Example: Will you wear your green shirt or your blue one? Do you want hot cereal or cold cereal for breakfast?
IMPORTANT - make sure the Child understands s/he must abide by (live with) the decision.

Say no when you have to. Childhood frustration leads to adult perseverance, the key to success. But be consistent -- those rules again! And provide the reason.

Less toys are better. Your child will learn to make choices, rather than feeling overwhelmed, which leads to boredom. Toys that encourage creativeness are best -- the ones that can be whatever your child wants it to be -- the empty oatmeal box, the cereal box, the pan and lid, and they're free!

Turn off the television. It distracts your child's need for creativity and train of thought. It becomes "white noise" over which everyone speaks. Not good.

Take what you consider helpful from the "experts," than raise your child your way and enjoy.

My dear Grandma gave me only one piece of advice on raising children: "Whatever you promise, good or bad, deliver!" She was right.

Have a safe New Year's Eve.

Love, Joan

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War cannot be humanized, it can only be abolished.
-- Albert Einstein

The ultimate oxymoron: "Holy War"

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FOR PEACE ON OUR PLANET: We are not going to be able to operate our
Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a
whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody.
-Buckminster Fuller

NEXT ISSUE: More of the best I can find for you, dear Parent. And those EP
Bulletins will continue, if sporadically. .

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In the meantime, here is an angel sent to watch over you for me...

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FROM BILL:
We are Angels born with but one wing,
In order to fly we must embrace one another.

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Till next time, don't forget -- Parenthood is Wonder-filled!

Fondly, Joan
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